Indecisiveness creates room for excuses. Eating better. Working out. Tidying up the home space. Crossing things off that To-Do list. I’ll tell you one thing: If I’m flip-flopping on the decision of what to do, you better believe there’s a better chance I’ll make the lazy/unhealthy/tasty one. It’s the path of least resistance. The pleasure… Continue reading How to Create Better Habits with Less Thought
Ever asked yourself that? Ever had a day where every social interaction you have just doesn't land right? Maybe you're having more than a few days like that. I don't know your life. What I do know is that I've been hyper aware of how often I'm choosing to avoid people these days. If I… Continue reading Why Am I So Awkward?
This week I've been thinking about insecurity, AKA: the act of being too hard on yourself, and how we can work on overcoming doubtful thoughts about ourselves and where we are in our lives. First of all, let's accept that it's gonna creep up on us from time to time. We all get insecure and, ya know, maybe a… Continue reading 5 Ways to Overcome Insecurity
We're small. We're incredible. But...ridiculously small. Don't you forget it. It's vital that we keep this notion at the edge of our awareness because it instills us with a powerful sense of humility. Through humility, we can begin to more deeply and consciously appreciate the little things. What better way to exist than to live deeply in… Continue reading What If We Focused on the Big Picture?
Perhaps a more fitting name for this post would be, "Things I Started to Learn in my 20's and Still Need to Remind Myself of on a Regular Basis". But, that title doesn't quite roll off the tongue, does it? Let's be honest. The 30's aren't even old these days. I know many 30-something's (including… Continue reading 20 Things I Learned in my 20’s
I'm becoming de-sensitized to six packs. Yeah, I said it. I see the abs. They're there. I see them as an accomplishment and they're great, but they're just not what they used to be. Granted, I live in a city that glorifies an ideal body and I'm on the Instagrams flicking through seemingly endless pictures of intensely fit… Continue reading Why You Don’t Need a Perfect Body
Saddle up for a little honesty, kids. It's time to get real about what's going on in the streets. Sometimes people don't text back. Crazy, right? It's called ghosting and it's a damn epidemic, ya'll. I do it and I've experienced the other side of it. Quite frankly, I don't know of a friend that… Continue reading 10 Reasons They Didn’t Text Back
It's ridiculous to think that you can avoid sadness. In fact, it's counter-productive. The real question is: "How will you handle it when it arrives?" No amount of beauty, money, confidence, or power will protect you from the occasional visit from Sadness. It will come for us from time to time, reminding us how fragile we are… Continue reading Building Strength Through Sadness
The New Year approaches. Can you feel it? The arrival of a new year makes us feel like we've got a "fresh start". You find yourself reflecting on what you did over the last 12 months…and what you didn’t do. I, for one, have had some incredible experiences this year. We're talking things that I couldn't have… Continue reading 2016 Reflections and Resolutions
The first step to getting unstuck is to realize that being stuck doesn't really exist. Being stuck is a feeling and a mental construct. Usually the main reason that we begin to feel stuck is because we've forgotten that we have the ability to make decisions. These can be small, everyday, routine decisions. Or they… Continue reading How to Get Unstuck
My time is valuable. And, so is yours. I've become incredibly conscious of the way I spend my time. Who I'm spending it with. What I'm spending my time on. Why I'm spending my time that way. I've developed a talent for saying "no" to things I don't want or need to do. More importantly,… Continue reading What Do You Want?
We don't usually speak of loneliness. There's a stigma to it, isn't there? A certain shame attached. As though being lonely makes you pathetic or unwanted. That couldn't be farther from the truth. We all experience loneliness and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. It is a lack of connection. Mental, physical, emotional. One of… Continue reading The Truth About Loneliness
"Never say never." I certainly try not to. In fact, if I ever slip up and hear myself using that word, I get an immediate little nervous twinge. Saying "never" feels like throwing a challenge out into The Universe. And you know how The Universe loves irony. I picture it as something that doesn't like to be… Continue reading Never Think That You Can’t Adapt
I've been shy all my life. Most people in my life now wouldn't realize it. That's intentional and the result of genuine effort. When I was a kid, I missed out on so many things because of it. I wasn't able to stand up for myself. I denied myself opportunities and experiences. I'd stand there holding my mom's… Continue reading How I Stopped Holding Myself Back
Words are powerful. They can uplift. They can destroy. They can encourage. They can be wasted. There are things that I fear saying aloud or writing down because it would make them too real. Fixed into existence. Tangible. I use them with care because I understand how much weight they can carry. A throw-away, forgettable… Continue reading Be Mindful of Your Words
Since I started writing again, people keep asking me WHY I'm writing. Coming from most people, the question stems from a place of genuine curiosity. With others, the subtext seems to be: "What's the point?" I'm writing because it's my outlet and I finally feel compelled to do so.Seems simple enough, right? But, it's been a process.Writing has always been a… Continue reading Why I Started Writing…Again
12:48am A successful day lies behind. Sleep is within reach. I am still. Suddenly... DOUBT. It hits me like a wave. This feeling. Out of nowhere and uninvited. It always arrives this way. An unwelcome visitor. I speak of it this way because it never seems to come from me. It shows… Continue reading Defeating Doubt
It's easy to get into the habit of making excuses for why we're not doing something. It's the path well-traveled. Sometimes we travel it so well that we turn it into something more like a ditch that we have a hard time climbing our way out of. I've been there. Now, while I was stuck there… Continue reading How to Stop Making Excuses
First off, I hope that the body you want is the body you have. But, maybe it's not. Whether you're a man or a woman, you've probably developed the concept of what an ideal body is to you. Naturally, the media and the people around us may influence what our perception of "ideal" is. The way that… Continue reading Owning Your Body Type
I'm a perfectionist. When I was younger, I used to think this was something to be proud of. Pretty sure I was a little jerk and would even brag about it. As a slightly wiser (hopefully) and slightly older (definitely) me, I've come to associate being a perfectionist with limitation, stress, and the stem of negative self-talk. Here's why: Perfection… Continue reading Why I Don’t Want to Be a Perfectionist Anymore